Attaching to a cat can be difficult. Cats are independent animals and do not need to constantly interact with humans to feel satisfied. To strengthen your relationship with your cat, you also need to create a safe and positive environment. You will also need to teach your cat how to relate to the things he likes, like food. Whether your cat is small or an adult, you can create a great relationship with your cat with effort and patience.
Get your cat socially exposed as soon as possible
. In order to build a strong relationship with your cat, you need to make sure the cat feels comfortable around people. Early social training for cats is very important in their future relationships with humans.
- Putting your cat in contact with people when the cat is 2 to 7 weeks old will help in the future.
- Social communication involves picking up a cat and encouraging the cat to interact with people or other animals. These interactions should be pleasant enough for the cat to feel the desire to continue communicating in the future.
- Consider having your cat participate in communication classes. Your veterinarian can recommend a few places for you to consider.
Be patient with mature cats.
If your cat is an adult, don’t give up hope either. You can still work around this. Positive interactions also take time when you want to befriend a cat of any age.
- Even a 4-year-old feral cat (not in the care of a human) can learn to communicate.
- Communicating with an adult cat will require more time and patience. You will still follow the same steps in this article. However, be prepared that it will take a longer for the cat to accept you.
Create a comfortable living environment for the cat
cat will refuse to communicate if it does not feel safe and comfortable. Create a quiet and threat-free environment when you bring home a new cat.
- Start by placing the cat in a quiet room where the cat feels comfortable. Your bedroom is a good choice. Spend some time there to help your cat get used to your scent.
- Gradually allow your cat to explore other environments as he becomes more comfortable.
- Provide your cat with pleasant and fun places to lie down (and get in). A cat climbing tree is great for cats who need a little bit of security and privacy.
- Cats should always have food, water, a litter box, and a nail grinding post.
Keep enough distance.
Do not hang around with the cat or pounce on the cat anytime, anywhere. By being calm and keeping your distance, you will show your cat that you are not in danger and that the cat does not need to be afraid of you.
- This is especially important for adult cats that are not used to being around humans. Paying attention to these cats too much will be detrimental. You have to let them find you.
- Sit reading or watching TV, ignoring the cat. Spread food around the room and encourage your cat to step out in search of food. Your cat will follow the food trail and get closer to you. Please sit still. Do not approach or talk to the cat first. Let them get used to sharing a room with you. Food creates a positive relationship with your presence.
- Let the cat come to you. Lure or throw a toy to excite yourself. Don’t poke your cat in a hurry as this can scare it off. Let your presence not appear dangerous at first, then start petting the cat, even one at a time. Don’t be impatient, otherwise, you will have to regain your cat’s trust from the start.
- Remember that it may take a while for the cat to learn that you have no intention of harming it. At the moment, the cat still does not know you. Show love with patience when the cat first comes home.
Use a pheromone diffuser to calm a frightened cat.
They contain a pheromone that cats release when they are calm, so it can help a scared cat feel reassured and relaxed.
- The pheromone diffusers are easy to use. Just plug them into the outlet like any other room aroma device. Then, check periodically to make sure the liquid in it has not been drained.
- You can find these at most pet stores or online stores.
Gently petting the cat if it invites you.
Cats are very susceptible to aggression, and they will become scared or wary if you try to show affection without the cat’s permission. Make sure your cat will relate to you with a tender affection and moderation rather than fear.
- Gently pet the cat if it rubs you. It is a friendly gesture when the cat rubs herself against you. Strengthen the relationship your cat is establishing with you by taking advantage of this opportunity to petting.
- Cats love to scratch their head and neck. They also like to have their back stroked right where the tail is adjacent to the spine.  However, stroking your cat’s spine can make your cat so excited that she wants to scratch or bite you.
- Giving your cat treats as soon as you pick her up will help her engage in positive physical contact. [ten]
Pick up the cat when it feels relaxed.
Petting the cat for as long as it feels interested, then pick it up and take it to a sunny place, or give it food. This will help your cat think that being held is a good idea.
- Don’t try to cuddle the cat if it doesn’t want to.  This will break the belief you are trying to build. This is especially important for adult cats.
- There will be times when you will need to pick up the cat when the cat doesn’t want it, for example when you need to put the cat in the cage. Do this as gently as possible, reassuring your cat with a gentle voice, petting or even feeding her treats.
Seek medical intervention when the option is up.
Shy and frightened adult cats may need a prescription to help promote familiarization. Talk to your veterinarian if none of the above is working. [twelfth]
- There are many animal behavior specialists that can help in extreme cases. Get a referral from your veterinarian.